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Coaching Tools: Passion, Strength or Value?

I often see coaching clients struggle with being able to distinguish between their strengths and their passions. And when I begin to enquire about their values they get even more confused.
A question that helps them get unstuck is to ask about the last time they were unstoppable. The coaching client is able to provide at least one instance; usually it turns out to be when they were living in alignment with their values, operating on their strengths and integrating their passions into their life.
Let’s define these terms to better distinguish between them.
A value is a standard of behavior that you hold dear. For example, Reliability, Creativity and Excellence are a few core values.
A passion is something that gets your fired up. It could be writing, designing websites, or planning events etc.
A strength is an innate ability or talent. It could be that writing or collaborating on web design ideas makes you feel strong.
It is easy to see why our coaching clients get confused
  • Values can influence your strengths. Just because Excellence is a value, doesn’t mean that creating perfect spreadsheets makes you feel strong.
  • Strengths sound very similar to passions. You may be drawn to event planning (because of your value of Creativity) while you strengths lie in other areas. It is important to understand that the knowledge or skill gap can be bridged through training or practice.
Whether you are a coach or a coaching client, in making decisions about your life, it pays to be aware of your values, your strengths and your passions. It is this clarity that casts your life’s purpose into sharp relief helping you differentiate yourself from others. With this newfound clarity… is it any wonder that you become unstoppable?
Guest Blog by Kay Fudala, Consultant and Creative Coach at www.kayfudala.com, currently enrolled with Goal Imagery Institute Holistic Life and Career Coach Training. 

Promises, promises…

So many coaches and coaching schools promise and even guarantee results. Does it mean that a coach is willing to take responsibility for what his /her clients do or not do? Does it mean that a coach training school is taking responsibility how someone would coach and build their coaching business? Is this in integrity? Is this an authentic promise? Even medical doctors don’t guarantee results. Do some coaches have a God Complex? I mean, who could take that type of responsibility for another human being? And coach training schools that promise that you’ll have a blossoming coaching practice as soon as you graduate — are you kidding me? It takes a bit more than that… Your thoughts?


FREE from the World Business & Executive Coach Summit (WBECS)

Just as last year, I’d like to share with you this special link to join the World Business and Executive Coach Summit (WBECS) and benefit from their free Pre-Summit coaching presentations: http://wbecs.com/partner/a/wbecs2014/ml13

They include:

  • My Definition of Success by John C. Maxwell
  • The Truth About Leadership by Jim Kouzes
  • The Latest Developments and Future Challenges, Including New Methods for Supervising Team Coaching by Peter Hawkins
  • Integral Leadership: Building Resilience, Openness, and Creativity in Leaders by James Flaherty
  • Generative Thriving: Professional Sovereignty is Key by Janet Harvey
  • Coaching Across Cultures: Leveraging Cultural Differences for Creativity, Unity and Purpose by Philippe Rosinski
  • The Key to Success in Life and Business is to Become a Master at Conversational Intelligence by Judith Glaser
  • ROI of Coaching: Three Keys to Success by Lisa Ann Edwards

And many more… 

Register for all these complimentary sessions here: http://wbecs.com/partner/a/wbecs2014/ml13


Being in the Moment v. Being on Purpose

Even though Eastern approaches are becoming more and more mainstream and are being accepted by us as a healthy way of living, we don’t really buy into it fully. Not really. And, from a coaching perspective, even though “being in the moment” is regarded as very important, coaching, as a discipline, is very much results- and future-oriented.  In fact, both “being in the moment” and “being on purpose” are core coaching attitudes. How do we reconcile them and find balance? Can someone be truly in the moment while constantly structuring and strategizing over their future?

From a philosophical point of view towards life and living, “being in the moment” is a meditative, Zen attitude of accepting, receiving, being still in the moment and appreciating it fully. Nothing to move towards, nothing to do, the moment is perfect in itself and on its own. Don’t we take ourselves “out of it” when we dream about the future? When we strategize? When we think where we’d like to be instead of where we are right now?

In our culture, we don’t allow ourselves to just be happy and content without a specific reason. Why do we need a reason to be happy? Why not be happy “just because”? Why is it that we ask our children, “Who do you want to be when you grow up?” Why not let them to “just be” and enjoy the moment? What are your thoughts?


We Have Three Brains to Coach!

I love when science finally proves something that we knew for centuries.

Listen to a very interesting presentation about how the science has proved that there is not one, but three brains: brain, heart, and gut. And a coaching approach to integrating them. In fact, it’s very similar to what I teach as part of Goal Imagery(R) method. Take a listen: https://vimeo.com/65558348

There is much more to come! And it’s free at WBECS (World Business and Executive Coach Summit) pre-summit: http://www.wbecs.com/go/wbecs/ml13“.



WBECS (World Business and Executive Coach Summit) with Brian Underhill: What Do Executives Want in a Coach?

You can still register for WBECS (World Business and Executive Coach Summit) free pre-summithttp://www.wbecs.com/go/wbecs/ml13“.

Tonight’s session was with Dr. Brian Underhill, founder & CEO of CoachSource, LLC  and the author of “Executive Coaching for Results”.

He also told us that if we twitter him directly, he’ll send us his book – very generous of him. His twitter: www.twitter.com/bunderhill

Here’s the screen shot from his presentation where he is sharing with us the latest research that was done this year.


Coaching & Training: Judging versus Telling the Truth

I don’t believe that my client has the talent she thinks she has. I watched her perform – and it sucked! Do I tell her?

One of the aspiring actresses hired me to coach her in preparing her own one-woman show. She was going to invest lots of time and money in this. She invited me to see some of her work and it was awful. The problem was that she thought she did great.  I wanted to be honest, but I also wanted to be supportive. I was also thinking about “judging”, which we, as coaches, are not supposed to do.  However, if I didn’t tell her, I’d be out of integrity.

Whatever it was, I just wanted to do the right thing.

I went back to the ICF core competencies and read about “direct communication”, but I still didn’t know what to do. However, after reading it, I had a shift in my own energy. I decided to stay open, be thoughtful and caring, and, at the same time, be in integrity. I also decided that if needed be, Id just ask for a permission to be honest and direct. I meditated a bit before my next session with her and when we started, “things” just came up naturally. I asked her if she inquired about what other people thought of her performance.  Then I asked her if she perceives her show to be a business or a hobby. Then we went into a discussion (she talked, I listened) of how differently she should be treating it now, realizing that this is her new “business”. Out of that discussion she came up with an idea of checking out her competition (other one-woman shows), making sure that her product is a high quality product (getting expert opinions), etc., etc.

My insight was that shifting my energy and emotionally preparing myself for the session enabled me to be both supportive and honest.

Were you ever challenged like that as a coach? Did you ever feel that you had to be straightforward with your client and just tell them the truth, but didn’t want to be “judging” wondering if this was your place to even say anything at all?  Please share your story.


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