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Being in the Moment v. Being on Purpose

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Even though Eastern approaches are becoming more and more mainstream and are being accepted by us as a healthy way of living, we don’t really buy into it fully. Not really. And, from a coaching perspective, even though “being in the moment” is regarded as very important, coaching, as a discipline, is very much results- and future-oriented.  In fact, both “being in the moment” and “being on purpose” are core coaching attitudes. How do we reconcile them and find balance? Can someone be truly in the moment while constantly structuring and strategizing over their future?

From a philosophical point of view towards life and living, “being in the moment” is a meditative, Zen attitude of accepting, receiving, being still in the moment and appreciating it fully. Nothing to move towards, nothing to do, the moment is perfect in itself and on its own. Don’t we take ourselves “out of it” when we dream about the future? When we strategize? When we think where we’d like to be instead of where we are right now?

In our culture, we don’t allow ourselves to just be happy and content without a specific reason. Why do we need a reason to be happy? Why not be happy “just because”? Why is it that we ask our children, “Who do you want to be when you grow up?” Why not let them to “just be” and enjoy the moment? What are your thoughts?

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Passion is Not The Answer

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“Passion” to me means a burning desire. I can be passionate about certain things in my life, but I’m not “on fire” all the time. When our clients can’t relate to “passion” the way we want them to, we treat them as if something is terribly amiss in their lives and insist on helping them “find it”.:) But passion is not always the answer. Even though it’s a must for a visionary leader as a source of a positive driving force, it’s not always a workable concept for everyone else on the planet. Coaches tend to forget that “passion” by definition is the highest degree of emotional intensity. It is extreme and far from normal. And it’s not even always positive. One can be passionate about something that is addictive, like gambling; or one can be passionate about someone who is not good for them. And when it is positive – does it have to be so extreme? Does it have to be “passion”? What about “inner happiness”, being “in your skin”, feeling content? Do you deeply love your children or are you “passionate” about your children? What are the different definitions for each concept? We shouldn’t measure our clients, their happiness, state of well-being, and level of life satisfaction by their passion or lack of it. I’d rather look at what makes our clients feel good about themselves. They don’t have to be “on fire” to be happy and fulfilled.
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